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kimishiro
11-13-2005, 01:30 AM
Most of you don't know me, for I only pop in every now and then for no particular reason. I'm kinda giddy right now, despite a lot happening.

Allow me to explain:

My life has been on a downfall of sorts.... nothing about "teenage drama" or some exaggerated story about my life, but rather... personal life problems that force one into poverty and beyond.....

Not to get into so much, my brother did something he shouldn't have. He got a minority preg.... and well, he went to jail for it in March... Been there since then, and despite the fact that he may get out for a month or so, he'll more than likely spend an additional two years in prison...

Thats not the good part, of course.

The girl.. just had her baby about two nights ago... but she doesn't want it. She wants to just give it away, being too young to afford it. Steven, my brother, would give anything for a child, as would I.

She can't give it away without his permission, and he won't stand for it. So in his absence(which, as previously stated, could be for 2 years or more) he would need someone raise this child for him.

Despite myself being barely out of highschool, I find myself obligated to do such.

This is a huge responsibility....why am I happy about such an intrusion on my life?


I've always wanted kids... Despite being relatively young (almost 19 =p), its been a dream of mine to raise a child of mine own. I don't know why.... Maybe because I grew up in a daycare for 12 years of my life, and even worked at a preschool for a year(last year).

I love kids, and... for instance, today I was driving on a long trip, and saw a father and daughter pass me on the road. Seeing as the radio is busted, I had to entertain myself (being the only person in the car).

I imagined having a daughter sitting next to me, and how I would entertain her and educate her, teaching her everything I know, and giving her all the love she craves. (I'm sappy, but.. bah) I even found myself making up silly songs that I might one day sing to my own kids...

Anyhoo...maybe I'm just weird...but this is exciting for me. I get to help my brother, by doing something that I want to.

I dunno if any of you get what I'm saying but I'm really giddy right now just thinking about it. Part of it is sad, but for the most part, I'm really happy that I'll be given the option to raise a child.

^_______________^

RLRL
11-13-2005, 04:23 AM
Thats so cool! It would be so wierd if I was raising another person's child, then again its your brothers so its completely different and you're really doing him a big favour, I really hope all goes well with you! Also, put some pics up of you and the baby once you get it, I think its safe to say we all want to see.. ^_^

Pikachu
11-13-2005, 05:05 AM
Indeed, good luck Kimi.

redeyes15
11-13-2005, 05:59 AM
Hey,i know how you feel, i want a kid of my own, but i am still 17 and i know having one will ruin my life, that plus, i plan on getting a kid when i get married when i first get out of college. I oftenly watch over my little cousins though, and I immensely enjoy watching over them..... makes me feel all warm inside.

Prof. Cinders
11-14-2005, 02:18 PM
Wow! That's so cool, Kimi! I can't imagine being a parent at the moment (still being a child myself, really :p), but I do love kids and I can imagine how much you'd want one of your own. Good luck, and yes, put up pics! I'd love to see the beautiful babe and her new [temporary] dad!

Linkachu
11-14-2005, 03:20 PM
Knowing that another's life is dependent on you... It is a pretty powerful thing. From the sounds of it I think you'll make a great father someday. As for this moment here and now, I'll pray everything works out for the best :)

I'm in a different place than you right now. After years of being the baby of my family I now have a little sister, as well as a second on her way. I love being a big sister but I also find it stressful... I couldn't even imagine being the guardian to a child 24/7 right now. In ways I'm still very immature and selfish, though I think if it really came down to it I'd make a good parent. I'd try anyways.

When the child finally gets a name remember to tell us ^^

redeyes15
11-14-2005, 05:25 PM
Linkachu: I am the same way with my sisters, they annoy me to death, but when im looking over my little cousins, its all different, its like i have a responsibility to actually look after them and teach them. Its a great feeling.

Good luck with this kimi!

Hotaru_Tomoe
11-14-2005, 06:12 PM
Aw cool! Kids... well, I don't like them as much as I thought I would. Now, before you all tear me limb from limb, just listen; I live in a big family... 5 kids, and I'm the oldest. I babysit all the time, and they're a bloody nightmare. Sure, I command respect, but I have to shout at them for them to listen. I don't want to do that to kids... ecspecially if I have them.

Anyway, good luck Kimi! It'll be kinda tough to explain to your friends why you can't hang out though. Just don't tell 'em you're wrist deep in poopie! XD That's another thing I don't like; I'm potty training my kids as soon as they can walk... X3

Coco
11-15-2005, 07:09 AM
I have also been away from the boards recently only because of to much World of warcraft, I still pop in every now and then to make sure you kids are behaving yourselves.

About the child kim, you should really think hard about it, Are you in a position to support the child financially and have enough time to look after it? It's all well and good to raise a child but it is a real serious thing.

kimishiro
11-15-2005, 09:19 AM
I'm not some kid taking a wild chance on something like this. Don't think of me as dumb, for I had put much thought into this before even posting. I know the responsibilities, for I worked at a preschool for over a year. I can change diapers and all that jazz. I've taught kids to walk, talk, color, all the good stuff in life.

Financially, a few weeks ago, I would have said no, but now things are starting to look up. I'm a great believer in karma, and I'm assuming that this gives me positivie points, which is why I'm beginning to make more money. I'm going through temp jobs right now, but I've already made $200 in three days. I also have an interview today for a job that pays similar, but is full time and perm.

As for the whole friends scenario, don't worry. I havn't any. @_@

Kinda lonely, but hey..now I'll have someone to watch movies with. ^_^

redeyes15
11-15-2005, 03:48 PM
no one said that you are dumb kimi, you don not know how much i want to be a daddy.... only other thing i can say to you is good luck with this, and i hope its nothing less then what you expect it to be.

Nyaa-Neko
11-17-2005, 10:26 PM
If you're able to afford her, then I congratulate you. You sound like you'll make a great adoptive father.
I just suggest that you find somebody who can babysit/help you if needed. Like others have said, a young child is a huge responsibility and cost, and you want at least one person who can pitch in if something happens.
Oh, and when she reaches age 4-5 or whatever, make her learn a second language. Man, how I wish I'd started with Japanese (or Spanish) that young...

kimishiro
11-18-2005, 10:39 AM
My parents will be there, as will my friend/roomate Marco. My dad didn't like the idea of keeping a kid, as he's been through it three times already.

Its a change of plans though...my brother may get out on bail Dec 5th.... in which case, it is HIS kid.. but the court put him on a sexual offenders list, and he hass no financial security, nor a place to live...

so basically, they won't let him have the kid...

more-or-less, its going to be a joint venture (like entrepreneurship ^^ ).

Heh, I'm fine with just being a supporting uncle.

And yeah, I plan on teaching him spanish at an early age.

kimishiro
11-30-2005, 01:12 AM
Yeah... change of plans...

They blackmailed my brother, as only the government can do, by promising him early release for his signature on the adoptions forms with a 'no contact' clause...

As for the kid... we'll never see him... ever...

As for my brother, he may get out in December.


Yeah, I feel stupid...

well, I feel a lot of things but stupid sounds good.

Pikachu
11-30-2005, 03:18 AM
That's a shame Kimi, I am sure you would have been a great guardian. I hope that the child has a good life wherever he may be.

RLRL
11-30-2005, 12:17 PM
That totally sucks! I really wish I could say more... You must be feeling so down Kimi... =-(