Love

[redeyes15]

Love? whats love? i seriously dont know anymore.......how can people cheat on there b/f or g/f? How could a human being act so foul and unjust and, well, bad to another? ecspecially to someone that cares so much about them? Why do people act like this? How could a person act so terrible to the person that loves them, and so close to sweetest day to? Why? I dont't understand what people think anymore, or how I'm supposed to believe people now, after the gal of my dreams have lied to me.... if she really didn't love me, then why say so?

[ZAKtheGeek]

Here's a stern, discomforting answer: all emotion is an illusion, and nothing truly matters.

[ImJessieTR]

I know how you feel. My first boyfriend was too interested in a relationship rated way too high for my taste (in 7th grade). The second one was a manipulative jerk. I dumped both after only a couple of months. I just couldn't bear to relive my mother's experience, where she doubts her worth over a decade after my father cheated on her. I truly hope you can find someone. You may want to focus instead on non-romantic relationships first. True love needs time to grow. Anything else is a crush or lust. I'm nearly 30 and I still haven't found the right guy -- but I like myself and respect myself enough not to "settle" for people who will end up destroying my faith in true love.

[praetoritevong]

Love? whats love? i seriously dont know anymore.......how can people cheat on there b/f or g/f? How could a human being act so foul and unjust and, well, bad to another? ecspecially to someone that cares so much about them? Why do people act like this? How could a person act so terrible to the person that loves them, and so close to sweetest day to? Why? I dont't understand what people think anymore, or how I'm supposed to believe people now, after the gal of my dreams have lied to me.... if she really didn't love me, then why say so?

"Love is temporary insanity curable by marriage."

The last part isn't important, just the first half. Well, when you're first in love, at least the first few weeks, it's just floating on a cloud. But, at least in part, love is exactly that: temporary insanity. I can't say for certain why she did it. All I can say is perhaps she didn't feel the same way, and realised that a few weeks afterwards. And that sorta thing is really hard to say to someone. Especially someone who loves you so much. Even more especially so to their face. It's like telling someone expecting a Christmas gift that their folks just died on the way to the party. It really is tough. That might be why she didn't tell you, and why she ended up cheating. I can't say how emotions culminate into cheating into someone, but it's possible.

Love really is temporary insanity. If she was caught up in that with another guy, after she realised she might not have loved you the same way you did her, all the requires is a little urging from the part of the other guy. Or, maybe it was on her part, I don't know, but when you're caught in love, you do stupid things, you do hurtful things and you can make mistakes.

I... don't like suggesting this, but there's also a possibility she just never really truly loved you. I know girls who have and could do that, have a guy for the thrill of it or as a fashion item sorta thing.

Honestly, I don't believe that in this case and it's unlikely in any case. I don't think she wanted to abuse you, or abuse your love. It may well be she knew it would hurt you and that it was wrong... Maybe she feels guilty about it. But like I said. Love is temporary insanity. When you get caught up in love... People can potentially act like that.

Some people have an innate ability to understand people. Most people will understand the feelings of people close to them. It'll take time, and it requires you to rebuild a relationship with someone. How can you believe anyone now? Put simply, you can believe people or you don't. If you can't believe someone again you will never love again. You can take advantage of life or you can watch others do so. Let this experience guide you, certainly, all situations give experience, but don't let it dictate you and dominate you and take control of your life. Accept it for what it is. What is it? That depends on how you now choose to continue your life. It's not easy to start afresh, but you can do it.

And ZAK, taking your view, that emotions are illusions... Well. Maybe emotions are illusions. But emotions dominate our lives and guide us and tell us how to live and interact. Personally I think it doesn't matter whether or not it is an illusion, but that it's important to address them anyway. They have the power to take lives or fulfill one or destroy one in a second. And regardless whether they are of an illusionary nature or not, for most of us they matter. Things matter to us not based on whether they exist or are illusionary or not, but whether it is important to us as individuals. Dreams are considered illusionary by many but many also rely on dreams and find out what dreams mean and the like. Thus they may well be an illusion, that I cannot say, but they matter, as much as solid objects in real life may. It simply depends on how much importance an indivudual places on it.

[redeyes15]

If they were just illusions, you wouldn't be able to feel them then, would you? I never knew an illusion could make u feel so bad.

[praetoritevong]

Or maybe the illusion is in feeling the emotion, maybe you think you're feeling something real...

[redeyes15]

u cant feel an illusion. u can see an illusion, but not feel it.......like a mirage. This is my luck with women though........always has been

[ZAKtheGeek]

Emotion is merely a complex state onset by an even more complex combination of brain chemicals at a specific point in time. This is the case with all forms of feeling.

[praetoritevong]

Says who redeyes? Are dreams illusions? If so you feel emotions in dreams at the time of dreaming. Luck with women has little to do with it. Luck in this circumstance is just a way of saying you haven't or can't find the right girl (yet).

[redeyes15]

well, maybe your right. I got a chance to see her friday and sunday(her bros birthday was on sunday, was at my cousins house friday when i got there), and i felt, well, very pissed. It seems that i cant accept that she doesnt need me, and even more, she even called a guy over, and my cousins had to literally hold me back so i wouldnt be able to launch myself at him. Well, looks like im gunna have to do some intense searching and thinking. thanks for the comments everyone.

[Hotaru_Tomoe]

You know, I really feel bad about what happened to you. I try to stay away from relationships personally... I still don't know my sexuality, bu that's not the point. So she cheated on you. Big whoop-dee-doo! If she couldn't see the good that (I assume) is lurking within you, then you didn't need her to complete your life. Relationhips are trouble. I know; I'm the shoulder to cry on when my friends have break-ups. But just because they're trouble doesn't mean they aren't fun.

Sometimes, you have to live on the wild side. Maybe you'll break a few hearts or have your own broken a few times. But the important thing is, life goes on. Love comes and goes... and if you find one that lingers, you're really lucky...

But don't take my advice; I haven't had a relationship yet and I'm a crazy 15 year old. But still, don't be afraid of love; it'll find you... even if you don't want it to.

[redeyes15]

but thats the point, i did find true love........and she didnt find anything in me...anyway, thanks for your time and concerns, i appreciate it.

[praetoritevong]

"True love is a marriage of the minds."

I daresay you won't have a lot of trouble finding another girl, if you can let go of your anger and your fears... You will.

[redeyes15]

thanks for the support everyone.

[PKS LeeTupper]

I know that I was shattered twice before I found my true love. Just keep hoping and trying. Everybody loves an optimist, right?

[redeyes15]

yea, your right. Im way over her now, shes being a real, well, a b word right now...... showing my boys my emails and everything, and now were sending hate mails back and fourth, its hilariuos. Shes made because im about to go out with her cousin(someone thats had a crush on me for 5 years)

and whats good about this now is that this time im not going to be with one of those girl players.... like i have been with for like all of my life(its a curse i say)

[Moonlit_Angel]

True love can't be perfect. It's all the imperfections that make it perfect for a single person. There's many different forms of love. You can love someone like a brother, a friend, a teacher, a parent, a crush, a pet, a spouse... it goes on. Then what is love? There is one definition. "Love is when one person wants the best for, and cares for, another person." If they don't have that factor in the relationship, then it's over before it begins, unless it changes somehow. It can't be forced.

People cheat because of many reasons. Personally, I think that people swho cheat are unable to handle a relationship or are not satisfied with their own lover. If I found out my love was cheating on me, I would be devastated. Maybe angry, but if I truly did love them, I would keep loving them. Why? Because I can't help it. Love is an unstoppable force that can only be diminished over time. I think the games teenagers play can't be considered love, just a popularity contest and a rush of hormones. I've seen rare cases, though. But usually, they never last. I don't focus on boys, though. That can come later, so that I don't screw up my life or break my heart. :)

[redeyes15]

True love can't be perfect. It's all the imperfections that make it perfect for a single person. There's many different forms of love. You can love someone like a brother, a friend, a teacher, a parent, a crush, a pet, a spouse... it goes on. Then what is love? There is one definition. "Love is when one person wants the best for, and cares for, another person." If they don't have that factor in the relationship, then it's over before it begins, unless it changes somehow. It can't be forced.

People cheat because of many reasons. Personally, I think that people swho cheat are unable to handle a relationship or are not satisfied with their own lover. If I found out my love was cheating on me, I would be devastated. Maybe angry, but if I truly did love them, I would keep loving them. Why? Because I can't help it. Love is an unstoppable force that can only be diminished over time. I think the games teenagers play can't be considered love, just a popularity contest and a rush of hormones. I've seen rare cases, though. But usually, they never last. I don't focus on boys, though. That can come later, so that I don't screw up my life or break my heart. :)

Looks like i am all set then, because thats how i am acting right now(hopefully, lol). People cheat because they are unloyal, and dont honor there commitment! Not all teenagers take it as a game, some like me actually have long relationships. Also, i have NEVER broken up with anyone, its always the other person that breaks up with me... ugh stupid sad memories.

[b-ondablock]

I just had to revive this sorry redeyes. But I have expierenced the same feeling you have. We where going out for two years and then she cheated on me with somedrug dealer and now he drug dealer doesnt like both of us. Dat stupid b****. But love is only curable by more love is what i would say.

[stephanitis]

Love is one of those things, if you stay away from it, it won't bite you! *Makes a biting sound* Grrr!

Hee hee just kidding. Love is one of those things that makes a whole lot of uneeded drama, in my opinion, but it's also really cool... I figure it's for all you other people. But I'm fine doing without thanks :D

[jordass]

**** my girl she left me for a fruitcake.

[redeyes15]

lol, i cant believe this was revived again. lol.

fruitcake, lol....

[praetoritevong]

QUIET!!! You're a bloody fruitcake just leave this thread, alone, in peace!
You really didn't have to revive it Bondablock, we really didn't need that comment Mr. Fruitcake, we didn't need that final comment redeyes, i would've thought more of you Steph, and we really, really, REALLY SHOULD NOT need this here to be said!

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