The Advice Desk: We'll help you with all your needs

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Well, here's the basic concept of this topic. It's not hard to figure out, but I'll explain it anyways.

I'll be the advice guy here. All you have to do it just post your problem and I'll help you to the best of my ability. If you were wondering, I've been through alot in my life so I could at least give a few helpful hints on anything. I can range from everyday life to religious problems.

Just drop us a line here and we'll get things cleared up.

PRESIDING ADVISORS:
Dr. Dragon Lord
Dr. Lugiasian



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[Salamence-trainer221]

Can other people can give their advice besides you?

Anyways, I could use some advice.

Ok, so I've been in a relationship for about 3 weeks now with a girl named Anna. I met her at Wolverine camp where some of the other Lutheran school's in my area go for a week. She's really pretty and she an extremely kind person, but I seem to be doubting how far this relationship can go.

I talk to her on phone very often, but whenever we talk, it never gets deep or emotional, just normal discussion and some awkward moments. I keep on doubting that she truely likes me or not. Everytime I ask one of her friends is she really likes me they say: "Yeah, she really does." I may just be paranoid because my last relationship ended up with me being cheated on.

So I'm wondering what I should do with this problem? Should I talk to her? Should I just not think about it and just trust her love that everyone says she has? I just need some advice...

Also, we are going on our first date to Cedar Point Amusement Park. I'll get to spend the entire day with her, and I'm really nervous because I haven't seen her since camp and I'm not sure what to say or do. A little advice on this day would be nice too.

Thanks, Sal

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Well, if you ask my opinion I'll start of by saying that I would never get into a long distance relationship. They always seem to lead to someone getting hurt and that's never a good thing.

Anyways, about your problem. After giving it some thought I believe that you should just come out and ask here about it. She may really still like you or she may just be telling her friends that because she doesn't want word to get back to you. The best possible thing you can do it just find out first had. Listen for hints that she's lying like stuttering and mixing up words.

About the trip, just act like yourself. It's better to get the true you out there and have people know who you are than acting like someone else and have they like you for something your not. Basically, if you really like her, be yourself. If she likes you have it be for who and what you truely are.

About the other people giving advice thing, I'd really like it if you want to give advice PM me. I want to make sure people know how to give good advice and are serious about helping people as I am. I'll only have a certain number of total advice people, somewhere around three at most including myself, so well be able to get things taken care of and not have people flooding this topic with bad advice.

Hope I've helped.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Lugiasian]

Yeah, I've got some questions.

What should I do if some guy steals my idea and puts it under a different topic name? :p

Nah, j/k. Yeah, another question.

I'm single and not exactly peachy about it. I mean, independence is cool, but not for such a long time. There's this kid I've been crushing on since the beginning of 7th--Erick(reminds me SO much of Elliot *sniff*)--but, he's really, really indecisive. One minute he's talking to me, next minute he wants me to shut up. And with 3 days left in the school year, I have no way to really communicate with him. Sure, I invite him on family trips, but that's just for the sake of my sanity. (YOU try being stuck in a car with three noisy kids for 3 hours. -.-)

The thing is, I'm also not dating material. ;_; I asked this one guy out said he was moving to Virginia which I know is a bull**** excuse. The other guys either had girls or just didn't like me. A barrage of that really does stuff to a girl's self-esteem. :( And getting dumped on the internet doesn't help either. Mehhhhhhhh.

So yeah, the advice-giver would like some advice besides her own. >.<

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Look, we're in the same boat here but I will give you the same advice that one of my best friends gave me.

You just have to be yourself and wait it out. There is someone out there that's right for you and you may not even find them till you're out of college but you will find them. It's just a matter of your mindframe and what you're open to. Don't focus on one person be mindful of everyone around you and you may notice something you hadn't noticed before.

Plus, look at it this way...YOU'RE 13!!! You have five more years of school to get to know people and be in possible relationships. Then there's all the time afterwards which we won't even get into. In my opinion, people of your age and mindframe don't even know what a relationship entails. I'm almost 18 and I still don't know. You just are searching for someone that you can share an emotional bond with that's slightly greater than that of a friendship.

That's what I have to say and I hope that I've opened your eyes to some new thoughts.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Salamence-trainer221]

Well, if you ask my opinion I'll start of by saying that I would never get into a long distance relationship. They always seem to lead to someone getting hurt and that's never a good thing.

This isn't a long distance relationship. She lives aboput 15 minutes away from me and we will be going to the same high school together. So...yeah, this ain't no long distance relationship.

Anyways, thanks a lot for your advice, I'll try and keep it in mind for tomorrow.

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Then that's not to bad. I hope things work out and you hit us back with the results of my advice. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Yoshimitsu27]

I have a not very thought out question.

Some people the other day were giving me grief. I mean serious grief, not just the usual "wierdo, loser, etc." sort of grief. They followed me and my friends up the road and continued shouting at us. I turned around, without thinking, and smacked one of them with the stick I was ever so conveniently holding. Normally, I wouldn't be concerned but since it was the year seven chavs... Well, let's just say they attack in packs.

What should I do that DOESN'T involve apologising?

[Lugiasian]

I have a not very thought out question.

Some people the other day were giving me grief. I mean serious grief, not just the usual "wierdo, loser, etc." sort of grief. They followed me and my friends up the road and continued shouting at us. I turned around, without thinking, and smacked one of them with the stick I was ever so conveniently holding. Normally, I wouldn't be concerned but since it was the year seven chavs... Well, let's just say they attack in packs.

What should I do that DOESN'T involve apologising?

Aw, crap. x.o Not exactly an expert on this. Well, I think you should travel in a group too, at least until they get off your back a little. Try avoiding them, even if you DO look like a chicken doing so. I mean, would you rather have a black eye? Don't apologize, if you really don't want to, but it SHOULD be your last resort. And whatever you do, DON'T start the fight. They'll just go after you even more. Self-defense is ok, but no hitting chavs for no reason, although that is fun. ;)

That's really all the advice I can give, seeing as I've never really been in a fight before. Only threats. x.x

[Coco]

I have a question for anyone that knows anything about cars, (problem with my alternator) If anyone does know anything say so and ill post the question.

[Linkachu]

Might as well pose a question for the sake of posting.

Ever since I graduated from high school three years ago I've been growing apart from my high school friends, particularly a girl named Carolyn who I considered my best friend. I'd never had a female school friend like her before, and I always figured we'd make an effort to keep in contact at University. But that isn't happening. We go to the same University, live about 7 minutes away from one another, yet see eachother about three times a semester. We rarely even talk on the phone either, and I get the feeling that the only reason she does call me is because she's feeling guilty.

I've tried to make plans with her but something pretty much always goes wrong. Either she says she'll call me back to confirm and never does, or she forgets about the plans all together and leaves me sitting alone waiting. The rare times we actually do get together other people are usually around too, particularly her boyfriend (or should I say fiance). There was one day early this summer that it was just me and her, but I could only stay for little more than three hours (due to her planning, not mine). Barely had the time to even talk -.-

I know she's busy with school work and stuff, but I know for a fact she goes out a lot with her boyfriend and other friends from University. This is a friendship I'd like to keep - I don't have many - but I'm starting to think it's futile. The last time I approached her on the subject all she did was get pissed off at me - didn't solve a thing except leave me feeling like an idiot.

Should I just give up on it? People change, eh? Maybe she just doesn't see a place in her life for me to fit in anymore. I'm not the most mature and "normal" friend she could have afterall, nor as focused in life as her. She's getting married next year and has top marks in University (scholarships and awards coming out her ears). Me on the other hand, I don't even really know what the hell I'm doing. I'm a lost cause compared to her...

So, yeah... Sorry about the ranting, but anyone have any tips on how I should approach a situation like this? I should probably just move on and make new friends but I'm not very good at it (at all). Loner by nature n' all. And I guess I'll stop writing now.

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Yoshi: My input here is that you should really just keep your head low and try not to get into trouble for a while, but if you do I'll tell ya what you need to do. Stand your ground and stare them in the eyes. Don't look away, don't flinch, and don't speak. It will put off a vibe that you're not afraid of them (which I hope you're not). That simple show should make them think twice because they are a race of creatures that prey of fear.

Coco: Shoot. If I don't know I'm sure I can talk to someone who does.

Linkachu: There's one simple thing that I can tell you...People grow apart. No matter how hard it is, it's human nature. It's been three years after high school and that's what seems to have happened. I can tell that she has developed a new group of friends and I believe that you should as well.

I know that it's painful to loose a friend, but it's a natural part of life no matter how painful it is. Just grit your teeth and try to get through it.

I hope that I've helped you all in some way shape or form.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Linkachu]

Linkachu: There's one simple thing that I can tell you...People grow apart. No matter how hard it is, it's human nature. It's been three years after high school and that's what seems to have happened. I can tell that she has developed a new group of friends and I believe that you should as well.

I know that it's painful to loose a friend, but it's a natural part of life no matter how painful it is. Just grit your teeth and try to get through it.


Believe me, I know what it's like. I only have one "life-long friend" (one whom I've never even gone to school with) and it's mainly due to her mother and my mother being best friends. The rest of 'em have come and gone. It's depressing but, yeah, it happens.

Either way, thanks for the advice. I think I already knew all that but I just had to hear it from someone else.

[PKS Dragon Lord]

It's not a problem. It's what I do here at The Advice Desk. If you need further advice on anything drop back by...I'll be here.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Salamence-trainer221]

Let's just say that Cedar Point was a complete disaster.

It was just total crap.

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Please, if it's not to much to ask, post your responce to the advice and your thoughts as well. I am giving up my time to try to help you out a little bit, so I would also like a Thank You if that's possible. Sorry if that sounds nasty, but I just had to get it out.

Thanks and keep writing in to us here at The Advice Desk,

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Yoshimitsu27]

Thanks for the last bit of advice, but I need more. I did it again - only against more this time. What should I do? Thanks in advance.

And no dodging them this time. I will not cower in the faces of those so stupid *glares at a passing chav*

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Ok...Here's what you do. Stand up to them. They insult you, insult them worse. They laugh at you, laugh with them. They hit you, either hit them back harder or just stand there and do nothing. Just by simply standing up to them and doing those things, it's a shock to their system.

Yeah, it may involve getting hurt, but in the end it will be worth it. Fear nothing and never back down. You'll see that in the end all the striving and maybe some pain work out. It's really all a matter of how you handle yourself and it you don't let down, things will change for the better.

Now I have a question for you...Mind telling me what a chav is?? lol

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Yoshimitsu27]

No problemo. Chavs are basically people who discriminate others for being different. You can tell who a chav is because they usually wear sport clothing, like adidas or nike, or something like that. Oh, and they listen to nothing but rap music.

*Bangs head on wall* I wouldn't mind them if they didn't discriminate others. Townies are alright (chavs, just without the discriminating part)

[PKS Dragon Lord]

Ok...So they're like the Preps over here. I get what you're saying. Thanks for filling me in.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Lugiasian]

Chavs suck. I deal with them every day.

And DL....maybe I shouldn't give advice. My advice sucks. :(

[Nemesis]

Chavs are basically people who discriminate others for being different. You can tell who a chav is because they usually wear sport clothing, like adidas or nike, or something like that. Oh, and they listen to nothing but rap music.

*Bangs head on wall* I wouldn't mind them if they didn't discriminate others. Townies are alright (chavs, just without the discriminating part)


Er, are you not just as bad by descriminating against people because they wear sports clothing? Townies and chavs are the same thing, it depends where you come from to be honest. I had never heard of the term Chav until last year, we called all people like that Townies.

[PKS Dragon Lord]

It's your choice, but I'd like you to stay around and give advice. It's better to hear what two people think than just one.

Dr. Dragon Lord

[Yoshimitsu27]

Er, are you not just as bad by descriminating against people because they wear sports clothing? Townies and chavs are the same thing, it depends where you come from to be honest. I had never heard of the term Chav until last year, we called all people like that Townies.

Not around here. Townies around here don't discriminate people for being different.

And I'm not hating them because they wear sports clothes - I hate them because they hate everyone EXCEPT them.

[ELMNTSK8TOR90]

Kyle, I'm sorry, I talked to you about this already when we were walking around the block. She is not emotionally available, and she's self-centered, uncaring, and... retarded. lol. She totally ignored you at Cedar Point and went on the water rides with her sister!! ughhh I already told you that she's not a good girlfriend =P

[ELMNTSK8TOR90]

Ok...So they're like the Preps over here. I get what you're saying. Thanks for filling me in.

Dr. Dragon Lord

no Dr. Dragon Lord, they're not like preps, they're like Wiggers. kthnx.

[Pikachu]

No they're not, they are preps but worse at sports and there music preference is more dance/trance/techno than hip hop but both are widely listened to through out the chav community.